Since my last entry I had stated that I joined eHarmony and invited you in following me on my “new adventures”. Well an adventure it has been for sure, and I’m excited to tell you that I feel like this is the 2nd round of Match.com, just a bit more expensive. So I answered all the questionnaires, filled in all the fields and uploaded the pictures that showed my best side. I didn’t have to wait long until I got a bite. He was from NJ, handsome, outgoing and we shared the same profession. I was intrigued by his forwardness to want to “skip” the question part and go straight to email. For those who may not know eHarmony, there’s a certain system to follow before you get to the good stuff. We hit if off right from the start. He was funny and claimed he couldn’t stop looking at my photos. He was so forward he wanted to meet that night for dinner! Yikes! It’s only Monday, I had just joined, and I wasn’t expecting this so quick! So I settled for Thursday night for dinner in at a local pub.
While leading up to our date night we transferred from eHarmony to Google chat and texting. I told him my favorite movie was Dumb and Dumber, and he joked he would wear a blue suit and top hat just like in the movie. Things were looking up!
On the way to dinner he texted me, “I’m biting my nails; I am nervous to meet you. Just look for the guy in the orange shirt at the bar.” Darn, no blue suit! Upon entering the restaurant I saw him sitting there, and I quickly hid myself behind a wall and chatted with the hostess girls about this being my first eHarmony date. I asked them if they could tell if he’s cute or not. My goodness, I felt like a little girl in junior high giggling with my friends at the lockers about the hot guy in class. I gathered the courage to stop being a coward and turned the corner to greet him.
Maybe something in me switched, but I didn’t feel a connection within the first half hour of meeting him. Could it be that it’s easier to be charming through technology instead of in person? I liked who he was in Google chat, but I wasn’t sure I could have fallen for who he was in person. He seemed … different.
During the dinner he talked, and talked and oh yes HE talked. He talked about himself so much at one point he said, “I feel like I’ve been talking the entire time, maybe I should ask you a question?” Looking at my watch we had been there for 45 minutes and not one topic we had discussed was about me, or what I do or how I spend my days. It was all about his trip to New Zealand, his family business and his thought on the latest political debate. I was bored. I gave the hostess a glance and I saw her motion to our waitress to leave the check. I suppose a simple glance can say a lot, even to a total stranger. I became so bored that all I noticed was a woman sitting clear across the restaurant stirring her tea. Continuously, loudly stirring her iced tea in the glass. So loud to the point it was all I could hear. My date’s voice seemed to fade, and I only heard the metal spoon hitting the side of the glass. That’s how bored I was.
We ended the date with a peck and he promised to call me as he felt an “instant connection”.
“Don’t bother,” I wanted to say. I was so jaded and disappointed at the point of the night, but I won’t let this date discourage me from trying again. He later texted me asking, “Do you want to see me again?” Gosh, I guess he had figured out the texting pretty much had ended, and I was no longer signed into Google chat.
I ended it all by lying, “I actually met someone.”
Let’s hope that becomes true!